Does it
take you a while to fall asleep at night? Do you find your mind dwelling on
various thoughts before you’re able to finally drift off and relax into sleep?
Do you find that you just aren’t sleepy enough when it’s time for bed?
Realize that if it takes you 15 minutes on average to fall
asleep each night, that’s more than 91 hours per year that you’re wasting. This
is the equivalent of spending more than two 40-hour workweeks just lying in bed
waiting to fall asleep.
And if you have insomniac tendencies and take more than an hour
to fall asleep each night, you’re spending more than nine 40-hour weeks on that
pointless activity — every year. That’s a tremendous amount of wasted time.
If you’d like to change this situation, keep reading. I’ll
explain the details and share a process for training your brain to fall asleep
almost instantly when you’re ready to go to bed.
Drop Caffeine (at Least Initially)
First,
if you drink coffee, tea (including green tea and white tea), yerba mate, cola,
or any caffeinated beverages on a semi-regular basis, this method won’t work
very well at all, so I strongly recommend that you get off all caffeine for at
least 2 weeks before you attempt to make improvements in this area.
Read How to Give Up Coffeeif
you need help with that. I also advise that you drop chocolate during this time
as well, including cocoa and cacao, since those contain stimulants too.
Even a small cup of coffee in the morning can disrupt your
ability to fall asleep quickly at night. You may also sleep less restfully, and
you’ll be prone to awaken more often throughout the night. Consequently, you
may wake up tired and need extra sleep.
Simply eliminating all caffeine from your diet can improve your
sleep habits tremendously. So if you haven’t already done that, please do that
first before you attempt the training method I explain later in this article.
If you really love your caffeine though, the good news is that
it’s okay to add it back once you’ve gone through this adaptation training. It
will still disrupt your sleep a bit, but once you’ve mastered the habit of
being able to fall asleep in 30 seconds or less, then most likely you’ll still
be able to continue the habit even if you consume some caffeine during the day.
Train Your Brain to Fall Asleep Faster
A decade ago it might have taken me 15-30 minutes to fall asleep
most nights. Sometimes it would take more than an hour if I had a lot on my
mind. And very occasionally I could fall asleep within 5 minutes or less if I
was very sleepy.
Today it’s fairly normal for me to fall asleep within 30 seconds
or less, and often I’m able to fall asleep in less than 1 second. My best is
probably around 1/4 of a second.
How do I know this? Because I have a witness that tells me how
long I was out. I also know that I was sleeping because I awaken with the
memory of a dream. If my sleep time is only a second or a fraction of a second,
then it’s obviously a very short dream. Some time dilation occurs though, so a
1-second dream may feel significantly longer… perhaps as if 5-10 seconds have
passed within the dream world.
Is this narcolepsy? No, narcolepsy is very different. I don’t
just fall asleep at odd times throughout the day, and I don’t have excessive
daytime sleepiness. Most days I don’t take any naps. One thing I do have in
common with narcoleptics is that I can start having dreams immediately when I
fall asleep, whereas most people don’t enter the dream state for at least an
hour. I regard this as a positive adaptation though, not a problem or defect.
I can’t normally force myself to sleep when I’m not at all
sleepy. But when I’m ready to go to sleep, I can go to sleep very quickly
without wasting time trying to fall asleep.
I’m not able to do this 100% perfectly. If I have a stressful
day and there’s a lot on my mind at night, I may find it more difficult to
relax and go to sleep. But most of the time under normal, average conditions, I
can get to sleep within 30 seconds or less.
I reached this point not by the exertion of conscious will but
rather through a long-term process of sleep training. So don’t think that
there’s some mental trick that you can use right away to make this happen
instantly. However, once you’ve trained yourself to this point, the process is
effortless. You’ll be able to do it automatically. It will be no more difficult
than blinking.
Understanding the Training Process
The training process may take a long time — months or even
years, depending on how far you want to go — but it’s not at all difficult, and
it needn’t take a serious time commitment. In fact, the training will most
likely save you a significant amount of time. The only challenging part is
maintaining consistency long enough to get results.
First consider that it’s possible for you to fall asleep faster.
Have you ever been really tired and sleepy at the end of a day, and you fell
asleep very quickly after getting into bed? Have you ever drifted off while
watching a movie or reading a book? Have you ever fallen asleep within less
than 2 minutes after lying down? If you’ve done it before, then consider the
possibility that your brain already knows how to fall asleep quickly, and if
you create the right conditions, then you’re capable of doing this again. You
just need to train your brain to do this more consistently.
The main reason that you aren’t falling asleep faster is that
you haven’t trained your brain to do so. You may be able to reach that point
eventually, but you’re not there yet. Similarly, you may be able to do the
splits if you engage in flexibility training, but in the absence of such
training, you probably won’t be able to do the splits at all.
If you want to fall asleep faster, you must incentivize your
brain to drop all other activity and immediately transition into sleep when you
desire to do so. That is the essence of this approach. If there are few
consequences for a lazy approach to falling asleep, then your brain will
continue to be lazy and inefficient in this area. You haven’t given it a good
enough reason to select more efficient behaviors.
Your brain is always active, even during deep sleep, and it
operates in different modes of consciousness, including beta (waking), alpha,
theta, and delta phases. When you lie in bed waiting for sleep, you’re waiting
for your brain to switch modes. An untrained brain will often take its own
sweet time making the necessary state change. So you may dwell on other
thoughts… or toss and turn… or just lie awake until your brain is finally ready
to transition. This is a common experience. Without incentives to become more
efficient, your brain will remain naturally lazy by default.
Your conscious mind might very much like to go to sleep, but it
isn’t in charge. Your subconscious determines when you fall asleep. If your
subconscious mind is in no hurry to fall asleep, then your conscious mind will
have a hard time forcing it. In fact, your subconscious may continue to bubble
up thoughts and ideas to occupy your conscious mind, distracting you with mental
clutter instead of letting you relax and slide into sleep.
A trained subconscious mind is obedient and fast. When the
conscious mind says to sleep, the subconscious activates sleep mode
immediately. But this only works if you’re feeling at least partially sleepy.
If the subconscious doesn’t agree with the need for sleep, it can still reject
the request.
The process I’ll share next will teach your brain that putzing
around isn’t an option anymore and that when you decide to go to sleep, it
needs to transition immediately and without delay.
The Process
The process involves using short, timed naps to train your brain
to fall asleep more quickly. Here’s how it works:
If and when you feel drowsy at some point during the day, give
yourself permission to take a 20-minute nap. But only allow yourself exactly 20
minutes total. Use a timer to set an alarm. I often do this by using Siri on my
iPhone by saying, “Set a timer for 20 minutes” or “Wake me up in 20 minutes.”
The first one sets a countdown timer, while the later phrase sets an alarm to
go off at a specific time. Sometimes I prefer to use a kitchen timer with a
20-minute countdown.
Begin the timer as soon as you lie down for your nap. Whether
you sleep or not, and regardless of how long it takes you to fall asleep, you
have 20 minutes total for this activity… not a minute more.
Simply relax and allow yourself to fall asleep as you normally
would. You don’t have to do anything special here, so don’t try to force it. If
you fall asleep, great. If you just lie there awake for 20 minutes, also great.
And if you sleep for some fraction of the time, that’s perfectly okay too.
At the end of the 20 minutes, you must get up immediately. No
lingering. This part is crucial. If you’re tempted to continue napping after the
alarm goes off, then put the alarm across the room so you have to get up to
turn it off. Or have someone else forcibly yank you off the couch or bed when
they hear the alarm. But no matter what, get up immediately. The nap is over.
If you’re still tired, you can take another nap later — wait at least an hour —
but don’t let yourself go back to sleep right away.
I think it’s best to do your nap practice during the day if you
can, but you can also do it in the evening, as long as it’s at least an hour
before your normal bedtime. Perhaps the best time for an evening nap is right
after dinner, when many people feel a little sleepy.
You don’t have to take the naps every day, but do them at least
a few times a week if you can. I think the ideal practice would be one nap per
day.
The
next part of this process is to always wake up with an alarm in the morning.
Set your alarm for a fixed time every day, seven days a week. When your alarm
goes off each morning, get up immediately regardless of how much sleep you actually
got. Again, no lingering. If you need help with this, read How to Become an Early Riser,How to Become an Early Riser –
Part II, and How to Get Up Right Away When
Your Alarm Goes Off. Those articles have helped many thousands of
people improve their sleep habits.
Now when you go to bed at night, seek to go to bed at a time
that will essentially require you to be sleeping the whole time you’re in bed
in order to feel well rested in the morning. So if you feel you need a good 7
hours of sleep each night to feel rested, and you plan to get up at 5am every
morning, then get yourself into bed and ready to sleep at about 10pm. If you
take 30 minutes to fall asleep, then you’re getting less sleep than you need,
and this is a disincentive to continuing that wasteful habit.
The message you’re sending to your brain is that the time you
have to sleep is limited. You are going to get out of bed after a certain
number of hours no matter what. You’re going to get up from your nap after a
specific amount of time no matter what. So if your brain wants to sleep, it had
better learn to go to sleep quickly and use the maximum time allotted for
sleep. If it wastes time falling asleep, then it misses out on that extra
sleep, and it will not have the opportunity to make it up by sleeping in later.
Sleep time squandered is sleep time lost.
When
you go to bed whenever and
allow yourself to get up whenever, you
reward your brain for continued laziness and inefficiency. It’s fine if you
take a half hour to fall asleep since your brain knows it can just sleep in
later. If you awaken with an alarm but go to bed earlier than necessary to
compensate for the time it takes you to fall asleep, your still tell your brain
that it’s fine to waste time transitioning to sleep because there’s still
enough extra time to get the rest it needs.
Coffee and chocolate are also crutches because if you don’t get
enough sleep, your brain can come to rely on a stimulant to keep it going when
necessary. If you remove these outs, then your brain will soon connect the
dots. It will learn that taking too long to fall asleep equals not getting
enough sleep, which means going through the day tired and sleepy. By closing
the door on potential outs like stimulants and extra snooze time, you leave
only one remaining option for a solution. Sooner or later your brain will
determine that going to sleep faster is indeed the solution, and it will adapt
by transitioning into sleep much more quickly, so as to secure the full amount
of rest it desires.
Instead of continuing to give your brain the message that
oversleeping is okay or that stimulants are available, begin to condition it to
understand that sleep time is a limited resource. Your brain is naturally good
at optimizing scarce physiological resources; it evolved to do so over a long
period of time. So if sleep time appears to be a limited resource, your brain
can learn to optimize its use of this resource just as it has learned to
optimize the use of oxygen and sugar.
If you get sleepy during the day as a result of limiting your
sleep time at night, that’s perfectly okay. Take naps as needed. It’s okay to
take multiple naps during the day if you need to, but keep them limited to 20
minutes max, and don’t have two naps within an hour of each other. Whenever you
get up, stay up for at least an hour.
Once you get used to 20-minute naps — or if you don’t have that
much time available for napping — try napping for shorter intervals. Give
yourself 15, 10, or even 5 minutes for each nap. I sometimes take 3-4 minute
naps (with a timer), which are surprisingly refreshing, but only if I fall
asleep quickly.
Teach your brain that a 20-minute nap means 20 minutes of total
time lying down. If your brain wants to ruminate during part of that time, it
always means less sleep.
Also teach your brain that X number of hours in bed at night is
all it gets, and so if it wants to get enough sleep, it had better spend
virtually all of that time sleeping. If it spends time on non-sleep activity,
it always robs itself of some sleep.
Once you’ve adapted and you’re able to fall asleep quickly when
you desire to do so, you can slack off on the training process, ditch the
alarm, and wake up whenever you want. Most likely the training will stick. You
can even add the caffeine back if you so desire. But for a period of at
least a couple months to start, I recommend being strict about it. Take naps
regularly, and use an alarm to get up at a consistent time every single day.
I still prefer to get up with an alarm most days. I don’t need
it to fall asleep quickly, but I tend to linger in bed more than necessary
without the alarm.
If this is too strict for you, I doubt you’ll succeed with this
approach. If you give your brain an easy out, it will take that out, and it
won’t learn the adaptation you’re trying to teach it here.
Everyone is different, so how long it takes you to adapt depends
on your particular brain. I’m sure some people will adapt fairly quickly,
within a few weeks, while others may take significantly longer. There are many
factors that can influence the results, with perhaps the biggest one being your
diet. In general, a lighter, healthier, and more natural diet will make it
significantly easier to adapt to any sort of sleep changes. Regular exercise
also makes it easier to adapt to sleep changes; cardio exercise in particular
helps to rebalance hormones and neurotransmitters, many of which are involved
in regulating sleep cycles. If you eat a heavily processed diet (i.e. shopping
mostly outside the produce section) and you don’t exercise much, just be aware
that I rarely see such people succeed with worthwhile sleep changes of any
kind.
One last item I’ll share is that I’m able to fall asleep fastest
when I’m cuddling someone, both for naps and when going to bed at night. On my
own I can get to sleep in under 30 seconds normally, but when I’m cuddling a
nice warm female body, that’s when I can often get to sleep in less than a
second. So I invite you to experiment with this if you have a willing cuddle
partner who enjoys serving as a human teddy bear.
Source: HigherPerspective
The end is a bit sexist, but the rest is good. I've done some of this myself, but I can fall asleep in 5 minutes and don't wake up before I intend to. Catnaps seem to be wasted when it still takes 5 minutes to go to sleep so I may try this to improve my 'power napping' technique. Perhaps 20 minutes is too long for a nap and I should experiment with the best result from different times. Maybe a week of 15 minute, then another of 10 minute naps and then 5 minutes and have them every day without fail at a particular time.
ReplyDeleteI think the napping should be more formal. Every day, possibly 15 minutes as the basic, with 5 minutes as an add on.
ReplyDeleteEven though 5 minutes to fall asleep is usual with me, and sleeping until morning is standard, I think more discipline may be needed to maximise other activities.
Sleep isn't about how fast you get off, it is the quality, are you in restful awareness when you sleep or are you dreaming all the time of hopes and fears? Sleep is meant for your completion not how to avoid your metal well-being. This article is nothing but hysteria.
ReplyDeletei get the trick, all i have to do is start reading this piece, will go out in seconds.
ReplyDeleteWhy u say is the time you spend waiting for the sleep is a wasted time? Often best of my ideas i get in this time... when my mind thinks of all kind of things waiting to sleep... many times i have to wake up from the bad to write it down... so think the 20-40-60 minutes you spend in the bed trying to fall asleep is actually a very good time to spend... it doesn't compare to a work hour... or i don;t know... it's a unique sensation when... don't trade it for a work hour... you work all life but some meditate only in the bed... think for a while...
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